The longer you avoid looking at painful but unexamined truths—whether those in your personal life or those in the world at large–the longer you put off the emotional freedom of living the life that fulfills your moral and emotional needs. "Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.”
Many psychotherapists believe that people with anxiety and depression
benefit from exposing and experiencing their repressed feelings, those bound
up with long-buried hurts and disappointments. It takes courage and
determination to examine old wounds and to feel the feelings they stir up.
People take all kinds of steps to avoid facing uncomfortable feelings. They
may eat too much, drink too much, gamble away their savings, or spend years
in dead or abusive relationships in order to avoid fully feeling their anger
or grief. My therapy clients often tell me, “I don’t want to be mad …” But
feelings aren’t like a fallen tree limb on a nature trail; you can’t just
step over or around them and go on your merry way. You have to move through
them to get to the other side—that is, the place beyond the anger, hurt, or
sadness.
James Baldwin, the writer and civil rights activist, could have been talking
about therapy when he said, “Not everything that is faced can be changed,
but nothing can be changed until it is faced.” It is not only personal
tragedies that people avoid examining, but larger, societal problems as
well. It is painful to watch the video of Rodney King’s violent beating by
Los Angeles policemen. And yet, I am grateful that the video exists because
it shows the world the depth of police brutality. When an abusive act is
caught on camera, people have the opportunity to address it. But first we
have to face it. We have to face the horror.
As a child, I pestered my parents to take me to the circus because I loved
seeing the exotic animals and the acrobats. Many years later, when the
circus rolled into my college town and I joined a group of friends to see
the show, it left me with an uncomfortable feeling about the animals who
were forced to perform.
My friends tried to reassure me: “I’m sure the animals are well cared for.”
A couple of years later, when I saw video footage of circus personnel
whacking elephants with sharp-tipped metal rods, and tigers languishing in
tiny transport cages, my previous discomfort made sense. I felt
validated—not reassured. I didn’t enjoy watching the video of what happened
behind the scenes at the circus, but, having looked at it, I was empowered
not only to avoid circuses that use animals, but also to tell others the
truth. In the last few years, we have seen exciting changes in the way
Americans view entertainment that involves animals. The Ringling Bros. and
Barnum & Bailey Circus closed down after decades of touring, and more and
more people are questioning the ethics of holding wild animals in barren
cages and forcing them to do demeaning tricks.
It is natural to want to avoid seeing, hearing, or reading something
distressing. But the longer we avoid learning the truth, the longer it will
take to overturn injustice. If you have even the slightest squeamishness
about going to circuses, wearing animal skins, or eating animals, it is
vital that you listen to your doubt and find out what happens to the animals
involved. For me, there was nothing like seeing video footage from dairy
farms–where cows were violently jabbed with pitchforks and pocketknives as
they slogged through an accumulation of manure and mud with painfully
swollen udders, or a day-old calf was dragged away from his bellowing mother
to be tied up in a narrow stall and overfed for the veal industry–to
reinforce my determination to keep dairy out of my diet.
The longer you avoid looking at painful but unexamined truths—whether those
in your personal life or those in the world at large–the longer you put off
the emotional freedom of living the life that fulfills your moral and
emotional needs.
Christine Jackson has been a therapist for 15 years and maintains a private practice in Washington, D.C. She has been an advocate for animals for over four decades.
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